Did you know he wants to talk about these things?

Written by Bess Obarotimi

How is the conversation between you and your husband right now? Who does most of the talking? Is there a balance of good stimulating conversation? Or do you find that you initiate and/or do most of the talking? Many husbands will probably answer “Yes, she does” to this final question. Of course, there are men who don’t mind listening to their wives provide detailed descriptions of everyday occurrences that more often than not have little significance to them. Many other men just can’t stand it.

This is what the men say are the reasons for this. A large proportion of men find women’s conversations irrelevant, too long, incoherent, missing out important information, boring and as previously mentioned of no significance to the both of you. The have had enough of hearing about so and so doing such and such. And exactly what you opinion on the matter is? And why you have such an opinion? And then they tire of the points where you repeat bits or go off in tangents. Does this sound like you at all. If not, feel free to stop reading.

So what is it they like to talk about. Obviously men differ. Some are more tolerable than others. They have different likes and needs. On the whole, research came up with these 3 consistent themes that men want to talk about with their wives.

No 1 was sex. So many said they wish they could talk more about sex with their wives. They didn’t really make clear what they wanted to talk about in regards to the subject but maybe they just wanted more sex. At the very least it seems they wanted more sexy interaction with possibly no talking at all. Because talking about it, will definitely lead to it. So my guess is, sex is what is actually wanted.

No 2. Shared interests Oddly enough, what Mrs Jones was wearing is not as interesting as the hobbies and interests you both share. What are those subjects that when you both start talking about them, you are both actively engaged? Well, talk about those more often. You’ll have to tell the other stuff to other women.

No 3. And finally was finance. Yes, men want to talk about the money. And from some of the things I’ve heard men say, this topic of discussion will centre around spending wisely, setting up nest eggs, investing and that type of thing.

So there you have it ladies. If you’re fed up with your husband switching off each time you open your mouth you’re better off sticking to the above subjects. Other ways to get safe discussion points are to(i) Listen to what he talks to the kids about. (ii) Make a note of the conversations that he initiates with his friends. And (iii) have a look at the type of stories he prefers to read in the paper. (iv)Lastly, take more interest in his hobbies.

The more you talk about things that interest him, the more willing he’ll be to talk about just You! Remember, there must be a balance.